Egans active listening theory
Photo by Ben Duchac on unsplash.com Communication occurs in many ways and across endless mediums. Technology has ushered in the ultra-connected era. But are we closer to loved ones? And are we more effective in business? Rapid-fireglobalemail discourse, video calls between out-of-state loved ones, and text messages between classmates like passing notes have all enabled us to share more. They could hardly be a bad thing, right? But with the explosion ofpersonal tech devices and virtual social platforms, we are more distracted than ever by the buzz and glow of our screens. I dont mean to sound like my grandfather reminiscing about his 12-mile trek to school, uphill, both ways, in the snow, (and barefoot) but the breeding of good interpersonal communication is becoming a lost art across teens, Millennials, and even seasoned high-ranking business professionals. Written andverbal skills play a big factor in this exchange, but they are not the most important. What is non-verbal communication? In this article we will highlight some of the dos and donts of non-verbal communication and at the end we will unlock the key secret to effective communication. Good non-verbal communication: The development of S.O.L.E.R. as an active listening model, or a way to physically demonstrate your interest and engagement, was created by author and professional management consultant, Gerard Egan. His model is used today in clinical counseling and professional settings worldwide, and can be incredibly useful in any situation as a baseline for better listening. Egans theory depicts the most effective body language to employ to make others feel cared for. Its an acronym that stands for:
Non-verbal communication to avoidfrom Chapterfour in Ingredients of Young Outliers):
There you have it. Nonverbal communication across cultures Its important to note thatnon-verbal communication practices differ across cultures. In the traditional Native American culture, engaging in direct eye contact with a stranger can be interpreted as disrespectful, whereas not engaging in eye contact on Wall Street might make you seem uninterested in a social or professional interaction. If you have an idea about a culture discrepancy like this, be sure to do your research. The key to effective communication Drumroll please the most important practiceof a successful communicator is the ability to step back and listen. Dont be the one who is waiting for the speaker to take a breath before unloading word ammunition. By taking a second tolisten towhat the other person is saying, you are sharing that their thoughts deserve consideration, you are acknowledging their worth as a fellow human being, and youre also more likely to be listened to in exchange. In order to effectively listen, you mustadopt the mindsetthat every person can teach you something.You might not agree but to know and be known is the true mark of effective communication. So put your S.O.L.E.R. skills into practice and show that you care. How did it go? Was the other person more relaxed and did you enjoy the conversation more? Please share your experiences in the comments. |